changing diapers, keeping children occupied, organizing schedules and
organize schedules and daily routines, prepare meals and cook,
shopping, being there for your partner, friends and family and
and do the housework: According to the study, being a mother is
as exhausting as two and a half full-time jobs.
Motherhood: a real challenge!
So the job description of a mother is demanding. In my case, it was even more demanding: I had a cry baby
I kept getting the feeling that my friends, acquaintances, my parents and even my husband had the impression that time at home with our excessively crying daughter was like a vacation. They couldn't understand that the everyday life of a mother often means "pure stress". But especially with small children or a baby, it's a challenge to get the apartment in order and organize all the other important things. My husband, who worked during the day, had no idea what was going on at home when he was away. If I ever expressed my frustration, for example about the fact that I didn't even have an hour to myself or that everything was extremely exhausting and stressful for me, it was met with a complete lack of understanding and dismissed with unappreciative responses, such as: "You have parental leave. The only thing you have to do is play with your baby a little". That was very hurtful.
To put a stop to this, I sat down and documented my daily routine. My husband was amazed, and things have been much better since then.
Of course, not every day is like this. In fact, it's often much worse. And I'm only dealing with one child. How much harder it is for mothers with several children!
To all mothers
Dear mothers, if things are going haywire for you: Do everything - just don't worry or stress. And if the ceiling falls on your head, just drop everything and go for a walk with your baby. It's relaxing and good for both mother and child. Talk to your partner and ask them to take over childcare for 1-2 hours at the weekend or in the evening to take some of the pressure off you. You also need time for yourself to recharge your batteries.
To everyone else
As wonderful and fulfilling as motherhood is on the one hand - it certainly has nothing to do with a vacation! Think carefully before you tell mothers that you would like to swap places with them, especially if they have a cry baby! This means a serious additional burden: constant noise of around 120 dB. Nerves are quickly frayed and sayings such as: "You're lucky, you can lie in bed all day long and play with your baby" can lead to explosive outbursts of anger - and quite rightly so.
To all the mothers in the world: day after day, you do the unbelievable.
